Some of the best resources I have found were the people on Reddit. These are people who have suffered from affairs, and I would courage you to particpate in these subreddits and chat with people as needed. You won’t find people more helpful then you’ll find here, and by participating you’ll learn that you’re not alone.
Each person here has a story, but you’ll find a lot of similarities. All cheaters are the same…
Note that these are NOT a replacement for therapy or counseling, but helped me significantly.
Surviving Infidelity: If you’re here, it’s because you are surviving, or have survived infidelity in a relationship you thought was life long. This subreddit is a support group and a safe space to ask for advice, and is here to support you on your path to recovery.
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/
Betrayal Trauma: A subreddit for the unfortunate people who have experienced the trauma of intimate betrayal.
https://www.reddit.com/r/BetrayalTrauma/
Narcissistic Abuse: This subreddit is a place for targets of narcissistic abuse to come together to support, encourage, learn from, share with, and validate one another.
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/
As One After Infidelity: A peer-to-peer support group and a safe space for betrayed and/or wayward partners attempting to reconcile after infidelity.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/
Divorce: Contributors to this sub are going through a divorce, have been through on, or are just starting the process.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/
Chump Lady
Chump Lady’s blog is one of the most popular, and her book, “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” was helpful. I continue to reference chapters from it each week when dealing with the affair.
https://chumplady.com
Surviving Infidelity
Surviving Infidelity is your safe place to come and share your pain and feeling of isolation upon discovery of betrayal. All who have been impacted by infidelity are welcome here, even the betraying partner, provided they are remorseful and committed to healing. Please use this site to network with others who are feeling a loss of hope and shattered dreams and trying to survive the most painful type of betrayal we all have unfortunately come to know.
https://survivinginfidelity.com
Dad Starting Over
Dad Starting Over is a blog of a divorced father of three kids who had his life turned upside-down when my wife had an affair and filed for divorce.
https://dadstartingover.com/
Not Just Friends - Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of martial infidelity – from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent cheating, and if, it happens, recover and heal from it.
After The Affair
On this site I found a number of helpful blog posts from all different perspectives.
https://www.aftermyaffair.com/