This weekend I had my dad call me asking about a United Airlines’ Frequent Flyer flight voucher. He was in the process of booking a flight and wanted to know if I still had my United flight voucher available.
I didn’t even have to think about it. The answer was no, and I used it for my ex-wife’s flight to Rochester, NY. She said that at the time I booked her flight she didn’t have any intention of cheating, but at that time she had already been cheating and had been having an emotional affair for almost a year at the time of booking (11+ months). This led me to recall how she would write in her journal how her Affair Partner would talk to her like his girlfriend, while he had a girlfriend and she was MARRIED. Yes, “married” was in all caps.
It didn’t even register to her that she was talking to him like he was her boyfriend.
This is the real problem which recovering from a “Traumatic Life Experience.” You have to be on top of your game ALL the time. It’s like having a mental illness that you can treat by focusing on positive behaviors and coping mechanisms, but the moment that routine gets messed up by a bad night’s sleep, you’re exhausted, stressed, triggered or anything else… those bad thoughts flood in and you can’t ward them off effectively so you have a mental health episode.
For a lot of us, we’ll get sick of always having to be strong and the bad part is, there are few people who can relate to the experience of being cheated on to such a degree with no regrets after 10+ years of marriage.