Valentine’s Day is on Sunday, and it reminded me of Valentine’s Day last year. Last year I had spent hours thinking about what to get the wife, and I thought I found something perfect for her – knee high boots. I knew she would look great in them and was hopeful that she would like it, so I purchased 3 pairs, all in different colors. The problem was that I purchased the “wide” boot, not the regular, so she didn’t wear them.
I remember that my wife was pleasantly surprised at her present and kept asking me, “Who gave you the idea of boots?” No one had. I just spent hours thinking about what she would like, then spent some time looking at which boots would be best. I just should have purchased the “regular” size instead of the “wide”.
Later that night I was sitting on the coach in the corner of our living room and my wife asked, “What’s wrong?” Something was wrong, but I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. I was reminded of that moment this week when I read this article from EmotionalAffair that reminded me that I knew something was off last Valentine’s Day, but couldn’t point to what it was.
Looking back, my wife had told her affair partner that she didn’t get a Christmas present (which wasn’t true), and him telling her, “I’ll get you a present. What’s the next holiday, Valentine’s Day?” I wonder if he did.
At the end of the day, it’s not even about the presents. It’s the fact I was invested in the marriage and was spending time thinking about her while she was checked out thinking about her affair partner.
The betrayed spouse often knows something “is off,” but most cannot point to what it is. Before a betrayed spouse finds out about an affair, they can develop depression and get the feeling that life is not what it seems.
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