My Wayward Spouse abandoned me abruptly. I never got to say anything to him. My therapist asked me what I would say to him and I honestly couldn’t come up with anything. I knew none of what I felt mattered to him. Not during our marriage, and certainly not after dday. So this is an exercise in futility. My mind cannot even go there because it’s pointless.
The realization that cheaters don’t care about their betrayed partners is one of the more difficult things to accept about infidelity. Nothing you could say would resonate with the cheater in a way that would make any difference to the damage caused by their betrayal trauma. We were acceptable collateral damage in their quest for satisfying their self indulgence. Saying anything to them is wasted breath.
One of the most crushing things in the human experience is being unheard and intentionally hurt by the one person you trusted with your safety and well-being. The one you promised to love to, to honor and cherish, and your complete fidelity.
Cheaters aren’t worthy of me and you. It’s not that they don’t understand; they just don’t care. Even thinking about what I’d say seems like a complete waste of time…