Greetings all!
In the series of the posts I have made so far I want to discuss some of the normal false notions, ideas, and the internal workings of same cheaters. In this post I will discuss the disrespect they are showing you.
Disrespect, Why?
Did they disrespect you when they flirted with their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they sent naughty messages to their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they made plans to be intimate or meet with their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they met with their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they cuddled/kissed their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they had sex for the first time with their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they lied to you or hid those acts from you?
Did they disrespect you when they lied to your face when you asked them about what was going on?
Did they disrespect you when they lied to your face after you found evidence of their affair?
Did they disrespect you when they defended their AP?
Did they disrespect you when they expected you to live with it or to just forgive them?
Did they disrespect you when they questioned need for information or closure?
Did they disrespect you when they told you that they love you so much, that they could not live without you but they never offered any remorse or a way forward?
Did they disrespect you when they got angry that you did not want them back or that you did not want to reconcile?
Of course the answer to all of these is a resounding “Yes”. They may not have intended any of the pain that they caused you but they certainly had little to any respect for you when they started the affair. The longer the affair the less respect they have for you. Now bottom line is that in order to have a relationship with another person you have to have respect or in the case of infidelity you have to regain their respect and they (Wayward Spouse) have to show you (Betrayed Spouse) that they can respect you in the future.