Don’t joke about divorce. It has been one of the most painful experiences in my life. You lose so much and your heart breaks over and over. If it is done to you it is just agonizing. If you have to do it to get out of a bad situation it takes a lot of bravery.
Don’t take each other for granted. You don’t know the value of contentment until you lose it. The safety and bliss that hides in boredom and predictability. The connection seems so effortless but do not confuse it with lack of passion. Losing everything has shown me how hard it is on your own. I was married for 10+ years and forget how special it is. Don’t ever forget how special it is.
As for the cheating ex, don’t pay the price for enticing excitement. It is short lived and so destructive.
It might make you feel alive. It might make you feel the happiest you’ve ever been in a long while. It is shallow and you will lose the valuable things you had. It will not be reparable. It might feels great the first time, but it will destroy your life. The affair partner isn’t better or more special. You will be throwing things away, breaking and hurting people to build the same house only, this time, built on lies and deception.