Don’t feel worthless, down, or even sad. You gave them months / years / decades of your life and what did your partner do? They took advantage of you and your love for them. Cheaters don’t rely on their partners stupidity to hide their cheating. They rely on their partners Love and Trust.
They knew you loved them and relied on it.
Do you have any idea what he went through to carry on his affair? When I thought my ex was cheating, I started journaling everything so I could refer to it because I thought I was going crazy. Once everything was done and the divorce finalized, I looked at my notes and put together everything that my ex needed to do to continue her affairs. This is what I came up with.
The person you loved, cared about, and trusted is now dead to you. Your relationship as you knew it is also dead to you. Everything you loved and cared about your partner has changed, and not for the better. THEY willingly broke your family. THEY willingly broke your heart. THEY willingly broke your trust. THEY willingly broke you.
Someone who willingly inflicts this type of pain from infidelity will never understand the pain they have caused. When I learned of my ex’s infidelity, the pain was crushing. I have never felt such severe pain. My ex dismissed it and was, “Get over it.” They continued to trickle truth me, lie, and never \admitted the truth. It seemed like every week I learned more and the pain level ramped back up to unbearable.
My ex did so much for her relationship without thinking about me, my family, or the pain THEY would inflict when caught. IMAGINE what your relationship would be like if THEY put in that much time, planning and dedication to you and your relationship as THEY did to willingly destroy your relationship, willingly betray you, willingly lie to you, willingly destroy your trust in them and every other man you might encounter.
My ex placed you in this extremely uncomfortable and dangerous (STD) situation, broke my trust, and broke my family.
Mine broke me without even a second thought…