Those of us recovering from the trauma of infidelity recognize how anger masks fears and insecurities.
I’m curious if others see what I see from the extended unedited version of the Oscars last night:
Will initially laughs at the joke.
Jada glares at him.
He attacks Chris with delayed retaliation.
His anger rises when he repeats himself.
“Keep my wife’s name out of your fucking mouth” is an odd choice of words. It belies a festering unresolved rage around sexual permission and public humiliation. It acknowledges that words have meaning, for both Chris and Jada, and for himself.
Will tried to articulate his reaction moments later in his acceptance speech, but could not. He came off sounding narcissistic and detached, failing to thank his wife Jada, and to apologize to Chris for his misplaced temper.
I recognize his anger. Like Will, I’m a betrayed man who’s endured the humiliation by others for choosing to reconcile with my wife. The agony feels unbearable at times.
I recognize the trauma of how he acted out, either not recognizing himself, or perhaps, terrified he just revealed the real broken person he is instead of the persona he rejects.
To be clear, Will is not the victim here. His suffering does not excuse bad behavior. Neither is he beyond reproach to take control of his own healing, to temper his passions and to be honest with himself.
And still, I recognize someone hurting badly, worthy of mercy. He needs help, not more humiliation.
From a professional:
Jada is a predator. We all need to remember that.
Her son’s best friend came to live with their family during a vulnerable time. He was a confused kid who went to Jada as a friend and a supporter and she used that power imbalance to have sex with a young man. It probably made her feel like she’s “still got it” or she’s a MILF or whatever.
If a man did that with his daughter’s best friend, we would call him a pig and a monster for abusing a vulnerable young woman.
Jada has consistently and repeatedly embarrassed Will in front of the whole world (anyone remember the Tupac poem?)
She is a predator. She is insecure and needs sex with young men to feel good about herself. She does not care about humiliating her husband in front of everyone. She does not care about anyone but herself. She is a narcissist.
The people defending her should be ashamed of themselves