They’re seemingly quiet, helpful and well-behaved, an exemplary person. They don’t stand in the spotlight.
It feels like they drew your attention naturally, without doing anything. This is in fact premeditated and they’ve been inquiring about you before putting themselves out there for you to notice. They aren’t passive, they’re predatory and catfish you.
They begin to dig up your worries, issues and dirty rags right away while pretending to sympathize heavily and wanting to be there for you, take care of you. Future faking will most likely take place here.
Likewise they “gently” intrude into your inner circle and personal matters because they “want to help” and “get to know you better”. Later this will turn into triangulation and a tool to sabotage and hurt you.
At the same time they’re trauma and pity dumping on you. Telling you about their demonic exes, their struggles in life, how before meeting you nobody truly understood them, how their lives finally have a meaning.
Suddenly your whole day revolves around them and you think it’s the romance of your lifetime.