One day you will wake up and the affair fog that you are in lifts and you will find that you have gotten yourself into a major situation. A situation that could/should have been avoided at all costs. You will have taken the innocent trust of your husband and demolished it along with his spirit, ego, and self esteem. His soul will NEVER be the same. You have literally taken a human being and completely altered his inner structure. Not to mention the toll this places on our children. You will see the people that you were supposed to love the most, forsaken all others for, go through the most agonizing pain that a human soul can possibly go through. They will be devastated, angry, remorseful for things they blame on themselves. They will dissect their entire marriage to find out just what went wrong. They will then turn that blame inward. They will start justifying your affair for you.
Every detail of the affair turns their insides to liquid and the affair will then suck the life right out of them.