You wanna know why the grass wasn’t greener? It is because affairs thrive on secrecy, novelty, and the support of the Betrayed Spouse.
Typically an Affair Partner is “Happy Time Harry,” and they only bring and/or show good, happy things to the affair. It’s all good times, good talks, and novelty + taboo fueled sex.
When a Betrayed Spouse steps out and stops doing the heavy lifting required for a normal life, an affair will often crumble.
Sometimes a married Affair Partner never had any intention to walk away from their marriage for your wayward. Sometimes they aren’t capable of doing the heavy lifting in a real relationship. Sometimes it’s the wayward that ruins it once they show all their warts – the ones the BS usually isn’t bothered by.
A Betrayed Spouse is never “plan b” or “second choice.” This assertion implies there is something special about an Affair Partner. There is not.